I think sometimes when we walk away from a relationship we think we have lost love. Many times we have acknowledged something we don’t love about the other person and have failed to see how that “thing” is really something we need to see within ourselves in some way. It may seem confusing to look at it that way but it’s a process of learning to love unconditionally. That is not to say we are going to stay with that one person forever but to find peace and love even when one has to walk away. When you can love unconditionally, separation really is not painful even if it is necessary. This is because when we are walking away THE RIGHT WAY, we are leaving IN LOVE. We love that person enough to know when the relationship has served its purpose and leave with more love for self and for them.
It’s so easy to walk away from someone when we create a disconnection to that person. We point fingers toward them and criticize them to the point of burning the bridge so far we cannot pull ourselves back to our heart connection. It’s an ego trip to protect our hearts but really we are just leaving more scars and failing to address what God is really trying to show us. When the separation hurts it is the pain of detaching our unfinished business. It’s not so much that we NEED them to fulfill us so much as WE need to feel like we haven’t failed. The attachment is ego. The pining and longing to be loved is our soul crying out for us to love ourselves; to love that part of us that the other person reflected. The part we couldn’t love and led us to separate ways.
There are those times, though, that people do acknowledge the lesson to some degree but they are still missing the big picture. They are missing one more step to completely making peace with that person and loving that part of themselves. They are missing loving that person for that thing about them they are walking away from. They are failing to find unconditional love.
True unconditional love doesn’t point fingers or criticize. It doesn’t lay blame or pick a fight. True love isn’t that person you are with the rest of your life. True love isn’t a partnership without challenges or struggles. It isn’t about not fighting or sacrifices one makes for the other to prove something. True love is loving yourself SO MUCH that you are not in pain or conflict with others. You embrace every experience and exchange you have as the Universe/God/Divine showing you what you need to make peace with in yourself. Every time we love a new part, the Universe sends us someone who reflects our individual self that much more and shows us more to love. (i.e. friends, family, lovers, etc)
My path in the last 3 years has led me to a person who reflects everything about me that I need to love. They left me feeling like I lost something until I realized I’ve lost nothing but the ability to love me. I’ve been judged by many for returning to my Soul mate/Karmic connection because of the issues that the relationship suffered but I’ve realized the real suffering is that our focus was on each other’s broken parts instead of working toward loving them. The Universe/God/Divine sent me right back to face this as I felt the connection was too great and business unfinished. This has also occurred in my social circle as people from the past that I had conflict with are returning to me so I can make things right.
I’m in the process to love all those parts of me wholly and I’m determined to complete that mission. It’s only then that I will find peace and my one True Love. True love really never ends when we find unconditional love for ourselves.
Loving “My Conscious Imperfection”…
Love & Light,
Lily Belle <3